An intimate look into the lives and thoughts of gay and bisexual men who are already married to women, yet undeniably attracted to other men. Their struggle with conflicting needs, desires and loyalties is here told in their own words, not filtered through theories or evoked in brief interviews. Taken from an internet mailing list which allows people to speak freely in anonymity, while encouraging the development of a tightly knit community, these stories feature men at all stages of the coming-out process, sharing their experiences, secrets, pain, shame, anger and hope.
"What a gift this book is! A must-read for anyone wanting to learn more about the thoughts, hopes, fears and the lived realities of married bisexual and gay men." - Robyn Ochs, Editor, Bisexual Resource Guide
Fritz Klein, M.D. is a psychiatrist and editor of the Journal of Bisexuality. His former positions include Clinical Instructor at the University of California at San Diego and co-leader of the Bisexual Forum in New York City, which he founded in 1974. He is author of The Bisexual Option, co-editor of Bisexualities: Theory and Research and co-author of Man, His Body, His Sex. Thomas Schwartz is a gay married man who is out to his spouse, children, family and friends. He has been a member of several email lists and compiled the original compendium of emails from one specific list for husbands out to their spouses, which is the basis of this book. In addition, he was for many years a member of GAMMA, a men's support group, and has befriended and corresponded with many men in similar situations around the world.